Dear Addiction Client,
I am writing to tell you a few things that were on my mind after our last session – actually, things that have been on my mind since the first time you walked through my door.
I can always tell when you are lying to me. Believe me, I’ve heard it all. You’ve been lying to yourself for so long that I know at this point, even you may believe the stories you tell. But I don’t. And the people around you that know you even better than I do better don’t believe you either. Beginning with the truth is a first and crucial step on your journey to recovery.
Show up for your appointments. You are wasting money if you don’t show up. And show up consistently, and on time. The only way you are going to get better is with consistent and continual therapy. Showing up for appointments holds you accountable, and forces you to be responsible.
Oh, and besides the importance of showing up for appointments……don’t show up high. Truly. Just don’t. It’s not funny, or cute or anything else. It is disrespectful to me and my time. And it is disrespectful to you and your time. You’ll never get anything done in that session – anything that you remember. Plus, I’m not going to let you drive home so besides the money you waste on the hour of therapy….you’ll also have to have an Uber to drive you home, or someone come pick you up.
If you were voluntold to come to therapy, that’s ok. Don’t be angry about that. Someone in your life loves you and is desperately trying to get you the help you need. Be glad there is someone that still cares enough about you at this point to try and get you some help. Because trust me: soon, if you don’t get serious about your recovery, they will get to the point where you will lose them forever. And they’ll be gone. Think about that while you complain about them to me. Picture your life without them for a
No one is going to do the work for your recovery. That comes from you. Not me, not your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, daughter, son, girlfriend, boyfriend, cousin, neighbor, Pastor, Rabbi, partner, friend or spouse. You will most likely have the support of one or more of those people I just named, but you and only you are responsible to do the actual work. Period.
Do I sound like I’m being hard on you? I am. I want to help you, and I want you to get better. I wouldn’t be doing my job if I don’t call you out from time to time. I know you are hurting. I know addiction is a beast to overcome. But you can fight it. I’ve seen people fight tooth and nail for their recovery. It’s possible. Anything, anything you want….it’s possible if you want it bad enough.
Recovery can happen. It can. I know you don’t think that now, and it feels like everyone is against you and the world is a hopeless place…..but stick with me. I believe in you. I know you can do it, you just gotta dig down deep and do the work. I have seen nothing short of many miracles in the time I have been working with people in addiction. I’ve seen people hit rock bottom and come back stronger and better and totally opposite of how they were before.
I can’t wait for you to re-read this letter once you’re in recovery. Do me a favor, and let’s read it together. It will be the biggest gift to me as a therapist, to see how far you’ve come.
Thanks for listening. You mean a lot to me, and I know you mean so much to the people in your life. We all want the best for you. Nothing more, nothing less. Just the best.
I’ll see you next session.
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